Did you get the hint that I am going to talk about communication
today?
It seems to be the Theme in my day. It is so important to communicate
with others with no assumptions and perfect clarity. So that there
is no misunderstanding or room for negative thoughts to sneak their
way in to your sub-concsience.
I have been trying to schedule time with a person who supports me in
my business; I get feedback and advice and I am looking for a good chat
about where I am going in terms of business. This has been a very
frustrating task as she is busy and has a lot of people to support.
Technology is also getting in our way - email is great when it works,
right? The final straw came when our scheduled call got bumped due
to circumstances she couldn’t control at the time. I felt frustrated
and unimportant at the time (I didn’t know what happened at this
point). I felt like a kid who doesn’t get their way and stamps their
feet trying to get attention. (I only stamped my feet in my mind).
All of these negative things popped into my mind. I started
making assumptions - she doesn’t want to talk to me, she doesn’t have
time for me and so on. Keep in mind it was 10pm at night and I was
tired. Morning brought a little more clarity and I knew I was going
to have to have a frank conversation with her and let her know about
my frustration and what I have been feeling in terms of our inability
to connect. The thought of that conversation makes me uneasy but I
know I will feel better once it is done. It has to be uncomfortable
in order to get to the root of the feelings.
We have to set up better ways to communicate and be clear around our
expectations so that we both know where we stand - I am making
assumptions that she doesn’t really want to support me because we
haven’t been successful at connecting but it is more that she is
really busy and overscheduling herself. She is making assumptions
that…well, I don’t know yet what her assumptions are. That will
come out in the conversations.
I think we are both hoping for a successful outcome but it will take
communication and openness for it to be successful.
So, the next time your spouse asks you do a task at home and you say
yes and the next day said spouse is upset that it is not done. Perhaps
there is a communication gap to fill - your spouse wanted it done
yesterday and you heard “do whenever you can, honey”. Next time
agree on a time frame and then there are no assumptions and no angry
spouses.
Have a great day,
Jeanette Johnston
Success Coach
Radical Redesigns
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but the whole being and outlook of a man.
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Assumptions are the termites of relationships.
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